Sunday, May 11, 2008

Tanka for Mother's Day

A moment of grace
5:00 a.m. on Mother's Day.
It's May; flowers will bloom.
A blessing to all mothers
And all long-suffering children.

It's 5 a.m. on Mother's Day, and I can't sleep. Mother's Day has long been one of my least favorite days of the year, a day when I am tortured by all kinds of feelings, not logical, but a mix of guilt and blame and fear.

I truly don't know how I thought I could be a good mother, given my background. I tried, to the point of almost not surviving, yet didn't do nearly enough to protect and nurture my children. I did not feel whole, and passed that sense of deficiency, the sense of not being good enough, along to my children.

I can still love them and try to help, but I can't (won't, I guess) put my life on the line. With the cancer, I am so tired and stressed, I can hardly get through a "normal" week.

Yet each day is beautiful. The flowers do bloom, as we know they will, while waiting impatiently (and with an odd uncertainty) each winter. In our distant past, that uncertainty was so deep that we felt we had to placate the gods to ensure each season and our concomitant survival. We are starting to realize again that we must do that, for help in healing our sad and suffering Mother Earth.

Let Lady Gaia, Mother Earth, and Wakantonka, Father Sky, be with us as we take this new journey. Let us regain a sense of our wholeness with the Earth and her Universe. Let all who come with light and with love work together to preserve the beauty and wholeness of the earth. By all that is above, by all that that is below, by all that is within, so may it be.



Bettina Makley, aka Fairywebmother. said...

What a wonderful blog, May! I can't tell you how much it meant. Somehow, I ended up with amazing children who love me, but I still beat myself up, from time to time, feeling that I could have done so much more. There's so much I would do differently, if I were given the chance...but then I must remind myself that all I can do now is choose love...and choose love...and choose love, again.

What a blessing that video is! I learned that song, years group. I never heard it anywhere else, though I knew it must have come from somewhere. Thank you for sharing that.

Brightest blessings, my friend! Thanks for visiting my blog, today. I've updated it with a link to more pics, if your interested.


May Terry said...

Brightest blessings to you too, Bettina. I'll definitely check out your pictures.

I do love that song. So often, we don't feel whole, which seems so much worse than feeling we have faults. Best wishes for healing for us all.

With metta,